I'm almost done and it's been a lifelong dream of my mother's to have her children graduate from college. Like just breathe bro /s, Bro you need to breathe into a tube to live? i might be the asshole here for overreacting. You need to put a stop to it and you should have put a stop it long time ago. There is archaeological evidence which suggests that Neanderthals cared for their relatives with health problems: Neanderthals would be disgusted by this behaviour. You think they are the only part of the family like this? It's a little weird to feel like this age group of men relies on women to negotiate between them in order to discuss momentary weekness. I yelled that all 4 of them are uninvited to my wedding. Hiding the inhaler was criminal! Your family members sound horrible, I'm so sorry you have to deal with them. NTA - they sound like a right bunch of bullies. His lips are turning purple! NTA for disinviting them stand your ground OP. They do realize you could charge them for the majority of these pranks (read: crimes), right? Of course youre NTA. It's theft. This is a serious condition and not something to prank with. I'd recommend you completely cutoff your fam members, including the enablers that are ok to turn a blind eye because it's not something that impacts them directly. What type of relationship does your dad have with your siblings? WTF! Nta for revoking their invites. I scrolled too far to read this. The men in her family are clearly toxic, and she seems to write it off as "boys will be boys". Your bf seems very chill and must love you very much to have put up with treatment like that. Yeah driving 7 hours without an inhaler could have gotten him, someone else, or both killed if he passed out behind the wheel. A place where it's obvious OP is the asshole. Pranks dont hurt people or destroy things. Jesus Fucking Christ! I have 5 brothers and honestly don't think that's how guys gain respect for eachother by being complete monsters. I can see it nowwife make my grandson a pb and j sandwich (cause we know he wouldn't make it himself) cause he needs to just get over this or its for attention when his airway closes..NTA. Stealing someone's effing inhaler out in the wilderness is trying to kill that person. This reads like the first 2 acts of a horror movie. Could be either! Asthma can kill and as someone with asthma not knowing where my emergency inhaler is can cause anxiety as I may need it to save my life. Your family straight trash sorry. You suck too btw. live happily now :). YTA if you keep allowing this behavior against your guy. Just look at the way talk about him! This is the lesson they need to learn. It's helped me to learn how many families with addicts change to fit the addiction. Keep your nice shiny spine and keep standing up for your partner. Jesus christ NTA they sound awful. Nope, not at all. Who shows you affection and makes you happy and feel loved? This is abusive. I feel so bad for him and am honestly surprised hes still with you. NTA you protect your husband. I'm autistic as well, and I agree that the /s helps a lot because we're at a point where I wouldn't be surprised either way. They hid his inhaler???? If you haven't already apologized for being such a coward that you let your family bully him to the point of actual danger to his health then I suggest you do so now. NTA but you wont be if you dont take drastic measures to ensure this bullying stops. I agree!! dad is so mad and now he's getting mom involved to get me to reconsider this decision. NTA. Leave them uninvited. AITA for telling my (step)dad that his kids are not welcome in my life ever again? I don't think I am the asshole because I suffered years of his abuse and don't feel I deserve to be spoken to like that. Dont let any of those family members ruin an extremely special day between you and Tim. Just they just seem like big bullies to me. I loved my dad and was happy that he was happy though. Im sorry but the men in your life sound like misogynist AHs, leave them in the dust where they belong. Fuck that that's why I have AAA. fast forward to yesterday, she messages me telling me to sell the tickets because she got better seats. I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. Stop trying to make him love you. You need to take your fianc and get the hell away from the pack, because theyre already turning on you now that youre stepping out of line and it will only get more vicious. NTA btw. OP if you see this have your fiance go slash each and everyone of their tires and when they inevitably freak out throw the prank back right in their face."WhAT He WaS JuSt pRaNkInG aNd TeStInG yOuR "MaNhOoD": these family members are just pure evil and have no respect for either of you. I'd contact the cops. Are you going to allow these people around your future children? So very, very not normal. This is not normal behavior. That fucking crosses a line. Mens mental health is important! Theyre clearly boys, not men. She's NTA. They'll fit right in regardless. Cookie Notice No! This is curious that your siblings are not on your side . I'd be pissed if one of my in-laws slashed them as a "prank". They are being toxic AH, stealing necessary medication is not a prank. NTA. Ugh. For a joke that isn't even funny. You CHOSE him and said here's the man i love and want to share my life and future with, and this is how they treat that love? This is not pranking, it's abuse. Im sorry but is your family a bunch of uneducated hicks that actually think this shit is normal? He was straight up trying to haze her fianc, that's unforgivable. Your wedding day will be one big joke to them. Yep. Exactly what she should tell them. 5th house stellium meaning; how to handle being dumped with dignity; send a wave on facebook; international scout.He wrote: " AITA for uninviting my mom from my . From one person whos been through this to another, thank you for having the courage to step back and stop the cycle. If someone slashed my tires they are paying or i am calling the police.the men in your family are immature bullies. Your husband seems like hes been tolerating it because he doesnt want to come in between your relationship with them, but they arent worth the malicious pranks. Not only uninvite them, you should cut contact completely. If YOU don't drive a wedge between you and your family over this, what kind of partner would you be? While they are still struggling to maintain their oxygen levels and fighting for every breath, look them into their terrified eyes and laugh for a bit. Cancer!" "And he knew you had cancer." "If that was me, the second I left my brother's house, he would've been dead to me. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. My asthma isn't terrible but I'd be fuming if someone dared to put me in the danger of not being able to breathe properly. NTA. NTA. NTA, they literally could have put his life at risk over a stupid prank. NTA for calling them out but you are TA for letting it continue this far. Thanks for doubling down, Dad. What your sister did was shitty, she let you down and made you waste 90. I'd not want them anywhere near me. And stick up for your fianc. They specifically use the fact he went college as a way to look down on him, and most people who do that are the same ones who think colleges are brainwashing places that take in nice, innocent, religious, straight conservative teenagers that perfectly mimic thier parent's views and opinions, all to brainwash them into being gay atheist liberals who might even have black or gay friends or worse, gasp even transgender friends. But Im gonna take it a step further and say you need to talk to Tim and really make sure that hes ok after all this. NTA They slashed his car tires, made him play chess (How does that even determine manly status the hell? Let her tell dad and let him digest that. These men need help. She let them slash his tires? You gotta step up for your man, yourself, and your future children because no way this stops at the wedding. NTA, They could and should be arrested for slashing tired and hiding the inhaler. NTA. Who wants to be treated like that for the rest of their life? Hiding an inhaler? Or to respect that, for that matter. Moreover, do you really want people in your life that don't believe ASTHMA is a serious medical condition. Pranks are harmless fun. Shrug and say that was your family? Yeah, I would never ever trust my kids for a single second with a grandparent who verbally harassed me, slashed my tires, and tried to steal medical equipment that kept me from suffocating to death. Clear vandalism and harassment, and Im pretty sure some kind of theft charge could be leveled against them on the inhaler. I might have bailed by now. Or messes with someones health as a prank? ESH leaning to YTA for not doing shit when they were "testing" him. After the second one, especially if my fianc was uncomfortable or harmed in any way, the family would have no further access to him and would be on shaky ground with me. They could've killed Tim. Yeah i would have been off the fence after the tires. I still don't always know for sure with some stuff, because I've come across too many crazies who really do believe things like allergies/asthma/mental disorders/autism/invisible disabilities are all fake or "excuses". AUTOMOD Thanks for posting! Toxic masculinity at it's finest. NTA. Yea those are pranks. Everyone thinks asthma is no serious thing. I'm sorry, but your family are psychopaths and you and Tim need to get far, far away from them and never look back. The AITA mods have nothing to do with this ban and cannot assist in resolving. Also criminal mischief. These are all bullies who've been allowed to reign free. Slashing tyres and hiding lifesaving medication is objectively not funny and is literally just bullying. He fights everything that's put in place to help him and rejects the idea that he's actually making things much worse for himself and for his relationships. It may be while he's getting ready for the ceremony, during family photos, the first dance, cake cutting, etc. You continued to expose your fiance to this bullshit and not call a hard stop to it. Be basically disowned his great grandparents and is very mad that my mom still does stuff with them. They are cruel people who have been bullying your fianc, these things are not pranks. I grew up in a sorta fucked up family. Medical paternalism sucks. Cant have no man treating his daughter like an equal person and human being /s . My brother would probably fight someone over slashing his tires. YTA for ever allowing it to happen and if you continue to. OP, I'm sorry you grew up in such a toxic-masculine environment. I said it's possible, but that is still a very unlikely possibility. His entire family has disowned me and they're all blocked on my phone after sending me awful messages. Canadian? They sound like the type of people that would try to sneak some peanuts into the food of someone who is deathly allergic to them and cry its just a prank, bro. The way your parents have reacted is worse. The question shouldnt be whether or not theyre invited to your wedding. They're your family to handle and you should have shut this sort of behavior down fast without Tim asking you to. Who carrys 4 plug kits? What if hed had an asthma attack and died, thats murder not a prank. If you dont prioritize him now you will 100% lose him and have only yourself to blame. Things like tattle tail and what not is a typical response from bullies and reading all this has bullies written all over it. You did not ruin your relationship with your family. Can't people with asthma die from an asthma attack? Since he buys high quality tires, that'd have been an immediate vandalism report. They were testing your boundaries, seeing what they could get away with doing and when there were no consequences, they escalated until it culminated in a life threatening event. He still went camping with them after months (years?) Pff too easy. My family might joke around , but not once ever has my dad tried to drive off my bf/fiance/husband. If I were Tim I'd be questioning the marriage with a hostile family like that. It all feels sketchy but truly crossed the line when they put his health at risk. Poor Tim. if someone going to collage is all they need to get set off on this super insercure episode those are people i would not want to be around. Because if she has an asthma attack and is more than 3 feet from one, she will die. It's also why women who get married have a lower life expectancy. Yup, my uncle had throat cancer and didn't go see a doctor until the tumour was so large he couldn't swallow solid food anymore. I really hope you make them pay for the tires they slashed. Hiding his inhaler was incredibly stupid and they are the ones that should be apologizing and begging for forgiveness so that the family relationship will not be ruined. Throughout my life he was forcing me to take sides in wars I should've never been involved in but at 19 I finally refused to take a side. Hiding an inhaler? Of course not, bullies are inherently cowards. Now imagine your family pranking your new husband yet again on what should be a day celebrating the two of you. Tim is a better person than most to endure your shitty family. Hiding someones inhaler - again, NOT a prank. My mom's husband who he despises for no good reason but has helped heal so many of my scars and has been more of a father figure will also be in attendance. They are BULLIES, OP. acts against the man you claim to love. I see this a lot when it comes to autism, so I'm very prone to taking statements like this at face value. violence isnt just physical aggression against an individual.) YTA for allowing it to get this far. They will have to live with the consequences of their "funny" prank and I find them being uninvited "just as funny". And I'd say their behavior is not funny nor normal. OP's family isn't awful, they are abusive. I would go LC/NC with the lot of them. You're actually still nice in my opinion and your family members are AHs, including your mum to be honest! They're immature little boys who believe they have to pretend to be tough so they don't get laughed at. They refuse to even apologize for trying to kill your fiance. Tell your dad that he shouldn't hide behind your mom if he is such a man. Uninviting her is not the solution to your problem. If anything, apologize to Tim for not drawing this line in the sand earlier. I thought my family was crazy. NTA and also I think is healthy you take some space away from your familytheir idea of manliness is so backwards. Maybe consider going LC/NC for a while. I'd hoped that was a ridiculous enough statement given the context to not need a /s but I guess it's not that far out of line from what these fuckbuckets actually think. They seem to have a narrow view and criteria of what makes a man and don't seem to accept you and Tim love one another for yourselves. Hey, OP - imagine your wedding reception. Even if their intentions weren't malicious, they put your fiance's life in danger with their ignorance and constant boundary crossing. Stand your ground and move on with your life. Mom cheated on stepdad a year ago and he left us. They probably don't realize how fucked up it is. I mean what was the challenge supposed to be exactly? Are you at peace with the no contact and okay with never seeing your dad again? I agree. When I got engaged to my boyfriend who is a city kid who makes a living in the arts, they hugged him. When I was 14 my parents got divorced. They need to fuck all the way off. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. They could and should be arrested for slashing tires and hiding the inhaler. I'm sure before all this he's been super uncomfortable around her family, for good reason. The truth is their pranks were expensive and hurtful - and nobody is laughing. NTA, your username is more accurate than you may even realize. Destroying his property to make a point? Since I assume none of them are medical professional, how exactly where they planning on testing his asthma? Also this is really concerning that you dont see that aspect. Slashing his tires? One of the few perks of being an adult, is choosing who stays in your life, and comes to your dinner table. Depending on how bad the asthma is it could be way beyond cruel. Nick has thrown a complete uproar about not being invited to my bachelorette or bridal shower. They have intentionally tried to belittle him and make him feel like hes not welcome in the family. It's their property". Stick to your guns, because what happens if you decide to have kids and have a son?? Asthma can be fatal, that's not a risk I would want to take. Now I'm not saying violence is the answer, but I wonder how they'd react if Tim resorted to violence. If I am being 100% honest with you, if I my in-laws had treated me the way your family have treated your partner, I would not have married him. Men don't do this. What will they do next, cut his brake lines? Fuck people like this and their asinine 'pranks'. NTA. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. If not, they really should be smarter than that. This is not pranking, its cruel bullying and taking away your fiancs inhaler could have had deadly consequences. However, when Wife is changing the diapers Husband will often enter the room and insist she smile whilst doing so as it may affect the child emotional state. But my point stands that this is gaslighting and the AHs are so obvious its painful. I'm not sure I had the same wherewithal at that age. He needs that to live! I hope not. not that I fault OP when their family is coming down hard trying to convince OP its just a prank bro. Jesus may love them but you dont have to like them. Was thinking the same. However your an AH for letting it go on this long. OP found somebody committed to her. Leaving the inhaler is potentially life threatening!!!! if all four tires are slashed you can call insurance to cover it as an attack. Child abuse waiting to happen. Yeah youre not the asshole for that but you are the asshole. They're the ones that have broken the trust. We had a friend die from cancer, because he never went to the doctor for his yearly blood work and checkup. NTA, Damn, well said! 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