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I just want her to hug me and say that she will be there for me no matter what but I know she won't because she would've said it by now. They feel that if their children are just like them, everything will be harmonious and stress-free. Everybody got mad at me so I quit the team. But I don't feel I'm ready yet. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on January 24, 2020: Speak to your mother & if she refuses to listen, you should speak to another relative or a school counselor. Ready to get your read on? No it wasn't 0, it was worth 1/2pt! Your father is insecure as he is threatened by your independence. There are either low cost or free counselling services. I've seen a few therapist and a psychologist by my own free will trying to get better. The violence at home had gotten so extreme I'd vomit before class so my stomach would be in less knots. Set some boundaries and steer your child in a direction you'd like to see them go in but let them have some independence. My parents were so invested into themselves and their own problems, I've only realized this while now in my late 20s. Putting money into savings for acting school or classes. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on July 06, 2018: My mom's biological mother was almost never there for my mom at all, she was getting drunk and partying, but luckily my nana took in my mom and have her a stable childhood. Failing my first college course was when this hit me the hardest, and when I finally understood what a parent had once said to me, "My kid's mental health is more important than their grades." Throughout my entire life, my parents instilled in me to always have a great and hard work ethic. Second therapist referred me to the psychologist. An extremely conscientious A student of average ability may have to study all night to obtain those A's while a C student of above-average ability may be bored with school and have a more relaxed attitude towards their studies. Disassociate from your mother. Discuss the matter with an impartial relative, counselor, or a teacher. They believe that they are making their kids' lives easier and less stressful. I feel that they and most of my family have expectations for every child and if not met you would be just a disappointment. Click HERE to win them all! Adults are just perverts to kids. If the child believes that they are stupid because they are a C student, they will become a low achiever throughout life, no matter what their human potential is. Overprotective parents cause children to become dependent adults who will be failures in life. Parents refuse to acknowledge how insidious comparing children are for many children are emotionally, psychologically, & even psychically damaged by comparing them to other children. Yes, overprotective parents are abusive parents although such parents present a "loving" faade. Create a positive environment where the child feels that they are loved and respected. I'd keep trying until I die. Really thankful for it, I've been trying to be super human. We are right back to where we started. After all this was a reflection on him as a male ! This kind of negative speaking has made me just want to be alone forever. (I am seventy-four.). Parents care more about their child's grades than the child itself. :). Anyone else would give up and leave, or at least up to this point everyone has but her. I wouldn't want to cause them pain, and I have just naturally never fought for my life. i felt i wasn't loved and when i said that i was beaten for it. Answer: Maybe you feel responsible for your sibling. Help! The Arena Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers to this website may receive compensation for some links to products and services on this website. Answer: Your father would be classified as an overprotective parent. I think it is important to consider that oftentimes parents were not ideally parented themselves and deserve some empathy and understanding too. I was pushed into gifted programs in school. Doing this will allow the child to develop competence and a positive sense of self. Please talk to a trusted relative. Might it help if you got a math tutor? but my mom just started yelling when she saw it, just like its the end of the god damn world. They just might be unaware of what is going on with you. Parents care more about their child's grades than the child itself. I'm so depressed right now. If I ever have children,I would never treat them the way my mother treats me.So, one day My moms phone buzzes.My mom is busy,so I look.And Im scrolling and I see that my mom and sister are having a conversation back and forth.And I read a text message thats my mom wrote that said,I never said she was perfect,but she isnt a smart ass.It Hurted me so bad And when I read that.It felt like I got hit by a car,and felt as if I was punched in the stomach.My self esteem went down so quick.No kid should ever feel that way like their not smart,or good enough.For all those parents reading this or people who plan on being parents,dont ever treat your children child like that.You May think,its nothing,but the pain and rejection stings so bad.And you may forget all about it.But the child will remember it forever.Its a scar that will never heal. My mother never was used to hugs or praising. Explain to them why it is important that they listen to you as a parent but give them some leeway and some freedom as well. They should be encouraged. But them telling me that everyday is enough to ruin my day. Parents can affect their kids' grades and not always for the better. Truth. Why? I'm now 62. I thought they were going to kill me. I have some gear so ill start practicing without rest. Whenever I try to talk to them about how I feel, they yell at me. However, there are parents who equate mistakes with grave mortal sins. Hey I am Fatima my mother is selecting her own opinion in my career she didn't give me any chance to study by my wish I Wana be in army but she don't understanding and she is doing what she wants what I do now? You contact their professors, because you didn't like a grade/want to ask for clarification on an assignment/want to ask for an absence to be excused/want to ask for an extension on an assignment due date. Also develop self-confidence, you are a beautiful, worthy person- a child of God. I'm still just 14 but all of these things have been done to me and it's obviously messed with me a lot. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on June 20, 2018: Get help & DISASSOCIATE yourself from your family. I have a "problem" i always get stressed in exams so i sometimes read questions in the wrong way, which leads to me getting low grades even though im good in that subject. They are of the belief that there is safety in following the prevailing and/or majority opinion. I'm 34 and have literally just developed a sense of real control over my thoughts and feelings, to help guide myself from this point onwards. I don't know what's wrong with me. Your father is abusive & his behavior is inexcusable. When she found out of course, she sent me to a therapist who didnt even help. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Many parents base all their expectations on the grade point average of a child. They are abusive & toxic. Just makes me sick. I have added 1 more explanantion to why i hate myself beyond rage.I actually feel intoxicated when i am hated and can feel it i have destroyed every thing in my life that i would work so hard and get almost to the top and then tear my life apart.my wife i feel sorry for she loves me so.i tried to ruin that for myself to and my prescous kids .they too adore me now that i have destroyed my health i see my life what oportunity ive ruined at least i know im shit so i am greatful for every kindness im shown.i no longer destryu things. Making mistakes is an integral part of a child's learning and growth process. This led to stunted emotional development and made it hard to have a normal level of self-esteem. Whenever I do want to hang with my friends she makes me feel bad by saying"does nothing else happen and what is going on in ur brain." Answer: There are parents who view their children as an extension of them instead of the individuals that they are. You don't need such people in your life. This man & his family are toxic. Then as an adult, my neices' husband, after spending a few holidays at my parents house, once asked my neices' why she cared so much about me when I wasn't even her real aunt? Answer: Your family situation is toxic. To order Carol's newest book,Speed of Life, clickhere. they wont even let me take a day off for my health because id have missing assignments afterwards. I should be homeless, rather dead because I wouldn't pan handle I'd just wander off in the woods. Instead, parents should encourage their children to pursue their dreams and let them figure out if their dreams and goals are reachable or impossible. Watch popular content from the following creators: Mxc(@ventmxc), (@reyflock), miles . I just photoshopped my report card my entire highschool career. One thing I can't believe is the stupidity I near from relatives and others i.e. Fortunately I have a wonderful mother (who is also criticized by my dad all the time). Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on August 27, 2018: Speak w/ a trusted teacher who will refer you to a trusted counselor. and if you ask me.. i dont care as much about grades, for me.. if i know that im good in that specific subject but i still get low grades it doesnt really matter to me. DON'T LISTEN to SMALL MINDED people! What your mother is doing to you is beyond horrific. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on August 07, 2018: Don't listen to your mother. The problem is that this approach doesn't turn your children into lifelong learners. i also developed social anxiety where id think certain people will be as bad as my mother. I've had my body taken advantage of multiple times by multiple people. it's making me go insane at this point, and i don't know what to do. The hazing at Scouts, Cadets from other kids, bizarre and inhumane. They insist that it is safest to conform to the prevailing philosophy and strongly discourage their children's individualism and nonconformity because they think that if their children refuse to conform to the prevailing groupthink, they will be considered oddballs or worse, be ostracized and left alone, or the parents themselves will be ostracized and denigrated by their neighbors and associates. It didn't work - I am in my 40s and she still tells me I am too weak and a disappointment - but it was her way of showing us love and, besides it is a fair criticism so I don't take offence. Go here to submit questions to Carol about every sticky sitch life throws at you. My perspective at least. Some parents want their children to be physically/emotionally flawless. 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